RED FLAG CHECKLIST
What to Watch For in Personal Relationships
Communication Red Flags
- ❌ They avoid honest conversations or shut down when things get real.
- ❌ You often feel confused or second-guess what they say.
- ❌ They blame you for everything — even their own behaviour.
- ❌ They twist your words or deny things they previously said.
- ❌ You’re walking on eggshells just to keep the peace.
Emotional Red Flags
- ❌ They love-bomb you early on (too much, too soon).
- ❌ Your gut often says, “Something feels off.”
- ❌ Your needs are minimized, mocked, or ignored.
- ❌ They guilt-trip you instead of owning their mistakes.
- ❌ You’re constantly feeling emotionally drained.
Psychological Red Flags
- ❌ They gaslight you — making you question your reality.
- ❌ You feel controlled, manipulated, or “managed.”
- ❌ They use silence or affection as punishment or reward.
- ❌ They’re jealous of your success or independence.
- ❌ They subtly (or not-so-subtly) try to isolate you from others.
❤️ Respect & Boundaries Red Flags
- ❌ They cross your boundaries — and laugh it off.
- ❌ They act entitled to your time, space, or body.
- ❌ You feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough.”
- ❌ They criticize you in ways that feel personal, not constructive.
- ❌ They disrespect your values, beliefs, or dreams.
Behaviour Red Flags
- ❌ They have a pattern of toxic or chaotic past relationships.
- ❌ You notice patterns of addiction, rage, or dishonesty.
- ❌ They lack empathy or dismiss your pain.
- ❌ They have a “one rule for me, another for you” mindset.
- ❌ You’re growing, healing, evolving… but they resist change.
✅ Quick Self-Check:
- Do I feel safe and respected?
- Am I free to express my truth?
- Does this connection support my well-being?
- Am I shrinking to make this work?
REMEMBER:
Red flags aren’t just warnings — they’re invitations to pause, reflect, and choose yourself first.