RED FLAG CHECKLIST 

What to Watch For in Personal Relationships 

Communication Red Flags 

• ❌ They avoid honest conversations or shut down when things get real. 

• ❌ You often feel confused or second-guess what they say. 

• ❌ They blame you for everything — even their own behaviour. 

• ❌ They twist your words or deny things they previously said. 

• ❌ You’re walking on eggshells just to keep the peace. 

Emotional Red Flags 

• ❌ They love-bomb you early on (too much, too soon). 

• ❌ Your gut often says, “Something feels off.” 

• ❌ Your needs are minimized, mocked, or ignored. 

• ❌ They guilt-trip you instead of owning their mistakes. 

• ❌ You’re constantly feeling emotionally drained. 

Psychological Red Flags 

• ❌ They gaslight you — making you question your reality. 

• ❌ You feel controlled, manipulated, or “managed.” 

• ❌ They use silence or affection as punishment or reward. 

• ❌ They’re jealous of your success or independence. 

• ❌ They subtly (or not-so-subtly) try to isolate you from others. 

❤️ Respect & Boundaries Red Flags 

• ❌ They cross your boundaries — and laugh it off. 

• ❌ They act entitled to your time, space, or body. 

• ❌ You feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough.” 

• ❌ They criticize you in ways that feel personal, not constructive. 

• ❌ They disrespect your values, beliefs, or dreams. 

Behaviour Red Flags 

• ❌ They have a pattern of toxic or chaotic past relationships. 

• ❌ You notice patterns of addiction, rage, or dishonesty. 

• ❌ They lack empathy or dismiss your pain. 

• ❌ They have a “one rule for me, another for you” mindset. 

• ❌ You’re growing, healing, evolving… but they resist change. 

✅ Quick Self-Check: 

• Do I feel safe and respected? 

• Am I free to express my truth? 

• Does this connection support my well-being? 

• Am I shrinking to make this work? 

REMEMBER: 

Red flags aren’t just warnings — they’re invitations to pause, reflect, and choose yourself first.